1,Sex is a powerful force that can destroy if not
used properly. Like atomic power, sex is the most
powerful creative force given to man. When atomic
power is used correctly it can create boundless
energy; when it is used in the wrong way it
destroys life. Sex is the same kind of powerful force. Sex is a gift from God to give us the greatest
pleasure, to help in creating a deep companionship
with one's spouse and for procreation of the next
generation. But if you play with this powerful force
outside the bounds of marriage, it destroys you and
those close to you. 2, intimate activity for young people arrests their
psychological, social and academic development.
Studies show that when young people engage in
premarital sex, their academic performance
declines and their social relationships with family
and friends deteriorate. This is because adolescents are too immature to deal with the
explosive sex drive and it tends to dominate their
3, The majority of women cannot enjoy sex outside
of the bonds of marriage. The development of a
fulfilling sex life needs the security and peace of the marriage bond. Premarital sex usually takes
place sneaking around in hidden places dealing with
the fear of being caught, the fear of pregnancy and
feelings of guilt. All these (worrisome) factors
undermine pleasure in premarital sex, most
especially for women. 4, Virginity is to be given to the most important
person in your life, the person you committed
yourself to stay with forever in marriage. Your
virginity is the most precious thing you have to
give to your spouse. Once you lose it, nothing in
the world can bring it back. Don't lose something so precious in a thoughtless way.
5, Those who engage in premarital sex run a high
risk of contracting one of the many venereal
diseases rampant today, as well as losing their
fertility. Not just AIDS, but other common
disfiguring diseases like herpes have no cure. 6, Some venereal diseases have no symptoms and
many couples discover many years later that they
became infertile because of these diseases.
Infertility experts estimate that 80% of today's
infertility is due to venereal diseases contracted
before they married. 7, The best and only method that guarantees 100%
against AIDS and other sexually transmitted
diseases is to wait for marriage to have sex and
maintain fidelity in your marriage.
8, Premarital sex breaks the 10 Commandments
given by God. The 10 Commandments are given to man by God to make man happy. They are not
outdated and they are not restrictive. If we follow
these laws, we can create happy and prosperous
lives. If we don't follow them, we will pay a heavy
price in divorce, disease, abortions, illegitimate
children and loneliness. Modern men make a big mistake when they think that they can break these
eternal laws and not suffer consequences.
9, Premarital sex runs the risk of conceiving
illegitimate children. Numerous scientific studies
show that the children of single mothers suffer
psychologically and are less successful socially and academically than children from intact families.
Above all, children need both their father and their
mother. It is wrong to risk having children who will
never have their father's love, protection and care.
10, If you date and you don't have sex, you can
forget about that relationship when you stop dating. But if you have sex with those you date and
then break up, the nature of intimate involvement
creates strong, often unpleasant memories for
your whole life. Every relationship you break up
where you had intimate relations is like a mini-
divorce. The psychological difficulties of these mini-divorces does damage to your character.
Later, when you are married and go to bed with
your beloved spouse, these unpleasant memories
will accompany you.
True love waits. If a boy or girl truly loves you, they
will want the best for you. They will not want you to suffer fear of disease, unwanted pregnancy and the
psychological difficulties of premarital sex. They
will want to experience love with you only in the
very best place of all - the love nest of marriage.